If you have ever tried to make some wholesale changes in your life, you’ve more than likely experienced an unpleasant phenomenon. It seems as though that when we set out to make improvements in any area of our lives, we invariably upset the apple cart and all of the rotten ones come rolling out to spoil our plans. I’ve often tried to change my habit of complaining; to stop myself before the words leave my mouth. I’ll set my mind to do it and when I feel the feeling to complain rise up in me, I’ll pause. Now you might think that suppressing a complaint may be like capping off a raging hot steam pipe; the result of which can be catastrophic when trapping such energy under pressure. But I can tell you that using that energy to try and think of a new thought and express a new point of view takes much more power and one will exert even more energy. When I have practiced not complaining I see immediate positive results, which of course motivates me to continue the practice. However, it also appears that when I try to not complain, an increase of irritating events arise in my life. Not only that but I’ve had people tell me that not complaining is bad for my health! So the folks that should be supporting me with positivity are piling on the negativity; another reason to complain.
So what is this; this avalanche negativity that seems to roll over us when we make positive changes? Is it the devil? Some people would say so; Satan, bad karma, punishment for a sorry lifestyle. Or is it simply a phenomenon that occurs when we shine a light on the negative? Those annoyances, those irritating people and situations have always been there; we just accepted them and may have willingly and joyfully relished them! Now, in our desire to separate from them, they seem bigger and badder than ever.
I see this as a milestone. I see this as a sign that I am on the right path, because quite frankly, when we choose a new path it usually doesn’t come with a roadmap. We don’t always know what to do different to break our old patterns and the only way to gauge if we’re on the right track is to be a little uncomfortable. It’s OK; it will pass. I know it’s just growing pains and I will be better for it. As a matter of fact, I have gotten to the point where I can get myself excited bout these challenges because I know a big breakthrough is coming!
God speed!